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Terrorism&Islam

How is Terrorism and the religion Islam related? why these two terms are always connected together in some way? is Islam really a religion of peace? does it support terrorists acts? you will know more by reading this essay.

            For a long time, terrorism has been the main attraction on news channels around the world. Horrible images of people doing terrible things in the name of God. Some non-Muslims might mistakenly believe that Islamic beliefs supports terrorism, but this is not true. Most Muslims are just as shocked by the inhumane acts that terrorist do in the name of religion. However, the world mistakenly believes that most Muslims support what the terrorist are doing. The Holy Quran does not support violence as a solution. The Quran clearly teaches that Muslims should promote peace and prohibits Muslims from participating in “terrorist” acts; especially against innocent people. Actually, the western media’s obsession with stories about terrorism is the main reason why “terrorism” exists. Moreover, terrorist acts are not only carried out by Muslims, but also by many other political groups around the world; however, these other groups do not receive as much media attention, as the Islamist terrorists do. Regardless of what the media says, most “real” Muslims are just as much against terrorism as westerners. Therefore, the idea that Islamic beliefs support terrorist activities has been misinterpreted in western society due to misleading information in the media.

 

         The Holy Quran does not support violence. The Quran clearly states that such violent acts like those carried out by “terrorist” are strictly forbidden. The Quran teaches Muslims that they should live in peace, respect the beliefs of others, to fight only if attacked, and to never involve innocent people. Most non Muslims might find that hard to believe, but this is a fact. Many of the teachings in the Quran are misunderstood by non Muslims, because they have never read it. For example, some westerns believe that the word “Jihad” means “Holy War”. Therefore, since the Quran mentions “Jihad” they believe the Quran supports it violent conflicts. “Jihad” actually means, “Struggle”; to struggle against the temptations which cause us to do bad things against others. When the Prophet Mohammed was asked about the meaning of “Jihad”, he said, “It was the struggle “against oneself.” (Hadith) Therefore, the word “Jihad” can be interpreted as “self refinement”, which is an idea that all religions teach. In addition, the armed struggle which is mentioned in the Quran is not “Jihad”, but “Qital.” For a “Qital” to be justified it must follow many strict rules which cannot be seen in the actions of the “terrorist” that the western media features so often. Therefore, the terrorist’s war is not justified according to the Quran. One of the rules that must be met is that women, children, and old people must not be harmed during armed conflict (Quran 2:190). This is evidence that those would claim to be fighting a “Jihad” are mistaken, because the Prophet Mohammed said that these rules must be followed strictly. Therefore, the actions of “terrorist” should not be attributed to all Muslims, but to a few with a misguided political ideology against the West.

 

            The western media’s focus on “terrorism” is the main reason why terrorism exists. Walter Zeev Laqueur, an American historian and political commentator, said, “the media are the terrorist’s best friend….the terrorists’ act by itself is nothing, publicity is everything.” (Harpers Bazaar 1976; p104(http://cscc.scu.edu/trends/v21/v21_1.pdf ) The acts of terrorists are meant to create fear in the people, and without the medias’ help they would be unsuccessful, because no one would pay attention to them. Armed struggle by a small group against a large, well armed, one has been a part of history for thousands of years. The only difference today is that these often inhumane acts can be seen by people all over the world almost instantly because of the media coverage. The media coverage is what the “terrorist” want, and the media is very happy to assist them; because the public’s concern with “terrorism” helps the TV stations to get more viewers.  The terrorists understand the power the voice of the public has in western countries, so they hope to use this “public voice” to help put political pressure on the governments they are fighting against. Therefore, the more vicious the attack, the more shocking it will be for the public viewers; the main objective of terrorism. The success of terrorist acts is often measured by how much media coverage they receive. The western media should realize how they are being used by the “terrorist” and stop supporting them by giving them media coverage. Ex British Prime Minister Margret Thatcher said, “Democracies must find a ways to starve the terrorist from the oxygen of publicity on which they depend” (New York Times article 1985). By cutting terrorist off from media access to the foreign public will reduce the effectiveness of their actions, and possibly make terrorism a useless tool.  

 

               There are so many acts of terrorism that happen around the world, but the western media pays special attention to only those which are committed by Islamist terrorist. Every night on the TV news, stories about various acts of terrorism committed by misguided Muslims are broadcasted. However, very little can be heard about the terrorist acts which are committed by many other non Muslim organizations. Groups like FARC; a Colombian paramilitary organization, ETA; a Spanish separatist group, and the Aryan Nation; a white supremacist group in the US, have been very active in recent years, but received less media coverage that Islamist terrorist. It was just a few months ago that a Norwegian man, Anders Behring Breivik, killed dozens of innocent children and bombed several buildings, however, it appears that he is no longer a big news story, nor was he called a “terrorist”. In addition, when the bombs first when off in Norway, the media were quick to blame Islamist terrorist. Peter Beaumont, foreign affairs editor at the Observer said, “ a jihadist group is most likely to be behind the blast.” (The Guardian July, 2011) (http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/blog/2011/jul/22/oslo-explosion-live-coverage  )This was said before any details about the attack were released; an assumption based on a stereotype of Muslims. It seems that whenever an attack occurs, the western media automatically assumes that it must be linked to Islamist terrorists. However, this does not mean that all westerners do not understand what the media is doing. Scottish Solidarity leader Tommy Sheridan said, “Today we see another report on the BBC linking Pakistan and Terrorism.  Even though the report is unconfirmed; and there are no details; and there has been no trial; they are quick to report the arrest of a Scottish Muslim in Peshawar.  And yet, still, we see no mention of the threats against the Central Mosque in Glasgow where the person who carried out the threats to bomb the mosque and behead Scottish Muslims has already been tried and found guilty.( http://www.new.solidarityscotland.org/videos/speeches/621-media-qterrorq-bias-against-scottish-muslims.html  )” It is clear that even some non-Muslim can recognize that there is some media bias concerning the amount of attention that is given to Islamist terrorists versus that of non Muslims. 

 

              Most Muslims are just as much against terrorism as westerners. As it was said earlier, the teachings of the Quran prohibit us from waging war against innocent people and ask that we do our best to promote peace. In addition, most Muslims understand that the terrorist are misusing the words in the Quran to fight a war that is politically motivated; not a religious one. Never the less, most Muslims do not support their actions in any way. Good Muslims understand that it is a sin to hurt innocent people for any reason.  In the Quran it says, “If anyone slays a person
– unless it be for murder or for spreading mischief in the land it would be as if he slew all people.
And if anyone saves a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all people.” (Qur’an 5:32) This idea means that the Quran teaches us to respect and preserve life which is one of the foundations of Islam. However, the bad deeds of a few misguided Muslims have caused the media to stereotype many innocent Muslims; even thought the blood that is shed on the TV news is mostly that of innocent Muslims. However, this is hard to perceive as the terrorist shocking actions draw attention away from this fact. 

            Islam is a religion of peace and social harmony. The Quran serves as a guide for Muslims to live their lives in a way that avoids conflict with others. In no way does the Quran support the use of violence as a way to settle differences. Unfortunately, the terrible deeds of a few misguide Muslims who use only parts of the Quran’s teaching to justify their evil acts, has help to create many negative stereotypes about Muslims and the Quran. These misguided Muslims would not be so successful, if it was not for the western media attention they receive. The western media needs to rethink what is more important; the number of viewers the can get from broadcasting terrorist activity or  helping to make terrorism a useless tool by not helping terrorist to achieve their goal of creating fear in the western public by broadcasting their acts. Therefore, the idea that Islamic beliefs support terrorist activities has been misinterpreted inwestern society due to misleading information in the media.

 

I hope u liked it.  

القريب

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

تتسائلون بكل تأكيد عن معنى “القريب” المكتوب في خانة العنوان، من او ماهو القريب؟

سنتحدث اليوم في هذه المدونة عن الله جل جلاله وتعظمت اسمائه.

لنسكت سوياً لبرهة، لنتمنى أمنيه لطالما حلمنا بها ونقول يارب .. يارب حقق لنا ما نريد.

اذا وقعت في مشكلة، اذا تضايقت من الجميع، أنظر جيدا لمن هم حولك، ستراهم جميعهم مشغولين بهمومهم وبحياتهم اليومية.

اذهب الى مكان ليس فيه الا انت وابدأ بمناجاة ربك، تقرب منه، اخبره بهمومك لانك حتما لن ترد خائبا..!

الجأ الى القريب ..السميع.. الى المجيب الوحيد لدعواتك.

يقول الله تعالى (( ونحن أقرب اليه من حبل الوريد)).. الله هو من يملك الروح التي بها تعيش، الله أقرب اليك مما تتخيل!

أنظر لحادثة يونس عليه السلام، وهو في ظلمة الليل والبحر. لم يصرخ، لم يستتغيث بالناس 

 بل لأنه مؤمن بقرب الله، نادى في الظلمات بتذلل وخضوع

” لا اله الا انت سبحانك اني كنت من الظالمين”

فأرسل الله ملائكته ليخرجوا سيدنا نوح من جوف الحوت.. لبّى الله طلبه وهو في أعماق البحار فقط لأن نوح عليه السلام آمن، وثق، واستعان برحمة الله. 

هل تشعرون لأي مدى سبحانه وتعالى قريب منّا؟ هو قريب من كل عباده. يدعوه الملايين فيستجيب لهم.

سبحان الذي يسمع الملايين، ويصنع أحلام الملايين، ويجود بكرمه للملاين.

الله سبحانه وتعالى يحب عبده كثيرا، ويستحي من عبده اذا ساله ولم يجيب.

فلنكون من عباد الله الذين نذكره وندعوه في كل وقت .. فهو أقرب قريب والمجيب الوحيد لآمالنا سبحانه.

(( إن ربي قريب مجيب))

والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته.

 

تجربتي الأولى مع الإنجيل

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

حاليا وبحكم دراستي في الخارج، أقابل أناس من مختلف الجنسيات والديانات، ولذا التحقت بمادة عن الاديان في الجامعة.

 في هذه الفترة، ندرس عن الانجيل الكتاب المقدس لدى المسيحين.

وعندما بدأت بتصفح الانجيل -كمتطلب للمادة- ، قرأت المقدمة التي استوقفتني كثيرًا وأود مشاركتها معكم.

الملخص باختصار:

أول مرة تُرجمت فيها النصوص الانجيلية إلى اللغة الإنجليزية المعاصرة عن اللغتين العبرية واليونانية، كانت على يد الباحث والمصلح البروتستانتي ويليام تايندال في القرن السادس عشر.

في ذلك الوقت، اعتبرت الكنسية ترجمة ويليام بأنها غير صحيحة ومحرفة عن النسخه الأصلية للإنجيل، وكردة فعل أمرت بحرق جميع النسخ وقاموا بشنقه وقتله بعدها.

الغريب في الأمر، عند زيارتي مكتبة جامعتي الأمريكية وجدت الكثير من نسخ الانجيل المترجمة باسم هذا العالم.

 

تساءلت، كيف يقال بأنها أُحرقت وتم التخلص منها؟ وكيف يسمح بنشرها في ٢٠١٣ إذا كانت محرفة ومغلوطة؟

أكملت قرائتي، ووجدت الكثير من مترجمي الانجيل المعاصرين -العهد الجديد-

 أمثال Coverdale, Thomas Matthew, and The Great Bible. تعتمد نسخهم على الترجمة الأولى لويليام والتي يقال عنها محرفة وغير حقيقية. 

هل يعني هذا أن جميع نسخ العهد الجديد أساسها محرف وغير صحيح؟

سألت صديقتي الأمريكية المسيحية في الفصل عن تفسير ولم تعطني اجابة شافية. 

ذهبت لدكتور مادة الأديان، فأخبرني بالتالي: كان لدى الكنيسة سلطة عالية ونفوذ قوي جدًا بين القرنين الرابع عشر والخامس عشر ميلادي، وبدأت هذه السلطة تضعف وتقل تدريجيا بعد اكتشاف وانتشار آلات الطباعه، حيث قل اعتماد الناس على الكنيسة وأصبح بإمكان أي شخص امتلاك نسخه من الانجيل.

 

في تلك الفترة، قام ويليام تايندل بترجمة الانجيل وأصبح الجميع يفهم النصوص دون الرجوع إلى القسيس لترجمتها ، وهذا ما أثار غضب الكنيسة فقررت اتهامه “إجحافًا” بتحريف الانجيل وخيانته للمسيحية رغبة منها باستعادة نفوذها وسيطرتها.

لم أصدق رواية الدكتور ١٠٠٪ ومازال الموضوع مثير للجدل ويستحق الدراسة والاهتمام.

 

هذا الموضوع يثير الكثير من التساؤلات في داخلي حول صحة النصوص الإنجيلية المعاصرة و أكد على هذا الكلام الشيخ يوسف استس، حين قارن النصوص الاصلية بالمترجمة ووجد فيها اختلاف كبير جدا من ناحية المعنى، مما يدل على كثرة التناقضات والاختلافات بين نسخة وأخرى.

هذا هو رابط قصته: 

 

أنتظر منكم تعليقاتكم واراؤكم الجميلة على التويتر او في المدونة 🙂

My Language Journey #1 (German- Lesson#1)

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2013-05-04

Saturday

Hello People!

This is my first language journey and i am sure its not the last. I will start with German for now and i will share the other languages i have acquired like Japanese and some Turkish sometime soon. By the way, this thing is only a summary of Lesson 1! so i still have a long way! bear with me 🙂 

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

شهد انسانة تعشق تعلم لغات جديدة كل يوم، بدأت بتعلم الانجليزية اولا كالجميع لانها بالطبع اللغة التي ستكون جسرا للغات الاخرى.

بعدها آنتقلت لتعلم اللغة اليابانية بحكم تكلم أبي باللغة بطلاقة ماشاءالله وبحكم زياراتنا المتكررة لها، الى أن انتقلنا للعيش فيها.

تعرفت من قبل كم شهر على زميلة المانية رآت حبي الجم لتعلم اللغات فأبدت رغبتها بتعليمي للغة الالمانية ففرحت جدا واخذت موعد.

فقط اليوم.. انتهيت من درسي الاول معها

علمتني كيف القي التحية، كي اعرف عن نفسي، وبعض القواعد المهمة.

في هذه المساحة  سوف اكتب لكم ما تعلمته نشرا للفائدة ولأركز المعلومات في ذهني أكثر.

قبل أن أبدء رحلتي مع اللغة الالمانية، اريد اعلامكم بأنني سوف تكون لي رحلات كثيرة مع كل لغة جديدة اتعلمها

وان شاءالله سوف اشاركها معكم فترقبوني 🙂

فلنبدإ!!!

Learn Deutsch-

Ja > Yes .. Pronounced as Yeah

Nine > No

Doch > بلى

Greeting

Hallo! > Hello 

Guten Tag > Good Day. its used commonly in daytime.

Guten morgen > Good morning 

Guten Abend > Good Evening 

Gutten Nacht > Good night. The “ch” pronounced as خ

grüß Gott > Greet God. This phrase is used only by Southern part of Germany because they are mainly Catholic. The world grüß pronpunced as قغوس Gghoos.

AND now lets learn the easy dialogue! 

ich = me انا 

Wie heissen Sie? > Whats your name?

This sentence is pronounced as “vi haissen zi”?

Ich Heisse …..your name………  > I call my self …… For example, Ich Heisse Shahad Turkistani. Saying your family name is very important to Germans. 

Woher Kommen Sie? > Where are you from? This sentence pronounced as 

Vohia Common sei? The “W” is pronounced as V not Wo.

Sei= You

To answer the Question ( Woher Kommen Sie?) say: Ich kommene aus ……your country…   For example, Ich Kommene aux SaudiArabia

Germans pronounce SaudiArabia as Zaudiaghabia ساودي اغابيا 😀

Und Sie? < and you?

Freut mich, Sie Kennenzulernan. >  I am very delighted and pleased to know you. This sentence is very formal and used among very high ranking people. Its a polite form.

The pronunciation of this sentence is فغويت مش زي كِنينتسولاغنين Fghoit mish, zi kennentsulaghnen. 

Lets have some Grammar!

There are two ways to say “You” in German : Sie ( pronounced as zi) or Du. If the S in the word Sie is capital, it means “You”, but if the s is small (sie) it means “They”! I know its wierd but thats how it is. The word Sie is used in the formal Language and Du is used in the casual language. 

The sentences that starts with an S, is either pronounced ” zi” or “shi”, never pronounced as the normal sound of an S, because it is difficult for the German tongue. 

When the vowels  ( a, o, u) comes before the “Ch” letters, the letter Ch is pronounced as خ “Kha”. For example: Guten nacht, the “ch” here is pronounced as خ Gunten nakht!

However, when the vowels (e, i) comes before “Ch”, the letter Ch is pronounced as “hi” as if the sound of the word Hi-llo Kitty. < what a stupid example lol.

Anyways!!!!!!!

thats a lot of information i guess, i hope i this didn’t confuses you, although i know i did :S

This is all i learned from my German Teacher so far, i will try to sum up the other lessons am gonna take with her Inshalla 🙂

Okay! i hope u enjoyed this <3

plz let me know what u think so far, and if you have any suggestions, hit me with it 😉

والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته 

Do women talk more than men ?!

Shahad Turkistani

English 0711(807)

2012-2-6​

​ Do women talk more than men? Many people believe that women are more talkative than men, and many proverbs supported this stereotype. Surprisingly, this is not the case. Men actually dominate the time allotted during most opportunities to speak. These are some of the point discussed by Deborah Tannen’s article “Put Down That Paper and Talk to ME!”: Rapport-talk and Report-talk” and Janet Holmes’s article “Women Talk Too Much”. In their articles, it becomes clear that women are far behind men when actual talk times were measured. The two authors, Tannen and Holmes both claim that men talk more in public, while women talk more in private, however, Tannen provides more convincing evidence to support her ideas.

​ Both Tannen and Holmes claim that men speak more in public. Tannen believes that men look for attention and acceptance from their peers when talking in public settings, which is why they contribute more during public conversations. Men use opportunities to speak in public to establish their position within the group via Report talk. Report Talk focuses mainly on providing or obtaining information and details based on the speakers knowledge or skill concerning the subject. To be successful at this, men usually need the courage to initiate conversation with confidence. Therefore, we fine that men tell more jokes and ask more questions at meetings, school, and in groups of their peers. This is what Tannen, believe to be the usual behavior of men in public. Tannen supported her claim by using a variety of examples, such as her personal experiences and information obtained from various studies which confirmed many of her beliefs. The examples Tannin used from her experiences clearly illustrated that men dominated talk time in public situations. This shows the opposite of the stereotype that women talk more overall.

​ Tannen provided us with a good example from her personal experience while at a group discussion about the communication differences between men and women. During the group discussion, one very talkative gentleman, explained how much his wife talked at home; while his wife stood by him in silence. However, at home he became the quiet one while she was the one initiating most of the conversation. On another occasion, Tannen witnessed a similar case at a PTA meeting, where the husband was asking all of the questions and participating, while the wife sat by quietly. Noticeably, the man did all of the talking even though the woman most likely had more relevant information to contribute on this occasion.

​Likewise, Holmes also claims that men talk far more than women do in public. She stated that the reason for men talking more in public is due to the different objectives men and women are trying to achieve with verbal communication. The main objective for men is to establish themselves as knowledgeable in front of their peers in public settings. By doing so, this is how men build relationships within their social circles. Men’s talk tends to focus more on expressing opinions and sharing information with the audience. Their position in the group is often determined by the value of the information they share. “Where talk is clearly valued, it appears that the person with most status has the right to talk most” (Holmes 44). By offering more information and opinions, men are trying to add value, thereby raising their social status within the group. Therefore, to assert themselves in public, it can be seen that men confidently participate in formal discussion, political speeches, television debates and radio interviews. Holmes mainly used academic studies to support her claims. From one study, Holmes stated, “When men and women are together, it’s the men who talk most” (42). Two Canadian researchers, Deborah James and Janice Drakich, reviewed sixty-three different studies that examined the amount of talk by men and women. Only two of the sixty-three studies showed that women talk more. Moreover, another study was conducted at a school, which also revealed that male students talk and participate far more than female students. Males begin to assert their power and status in front of others early on in life, whereas female students are more apprehensive about participating, due to the social norm that views women who assert themselves critically and in a negative light. “Talking in class is often perceived as ‘showing off’, especially if it is girl-talk” (Holmes 47). Men usually have more social confidence which is why they feel more comfortable speaking in public. Regarding Holmes’ findings, it can be ascertained that men dominate conversations and oral participation more than women in public, as this helps them to assert their social status in the group.

​ In addition, Tannen and Holmes are in agreement that women talk more than men in private. The main reason for women talking more than men in private is because the purpose of conversation between men and women is different, especially in private. For women, talk is more for interaction with their loved ones; women want to build relationships and share feelings with close friends. For example, women have a strong need to share more personal details of their day with their loved ones. Tannen believes that women use what is called Rapport Talk, which is a way of establishing connections to maintain strong personal relationships, as bonding with others creates a support system for them. Therefore, in conversation women tend to be more supportive agreeable and encouraging then men. In her article, Tannen provided many examples from various researchers to support this idea. Most of the research Tannen presented implies that women dominate private talk time. Tannen quoted Dale Spender, who while doing research on this subject stated, “Most people feel instinctively that women, like children should be seen but not heard” (Tannen 77). Therefore, any amount of female verbal participation would be considered too much by men, even if it could be proved that the men actually spoke more. Women usually talk in a situation that men don’t; at home, during dinner, or while watching TV. Women believe the home is the place, where they can relax and speak freely without having their views scrutinized. “The comfort of home means the freedom to talk without worrying about how their talk will be judge” (Tannen 86). That is the main reason why women contribute more in private; and they do not contribute more in public. Similarly, Holmes believed that women talk more than men in private. “Women, it seems, are willing to talk more in relaxed social contexts, especially where the talk functions to develop and maintain social relationship” (Holmes 45). Women talk more in private as this is the time they usually spend with close friends and family building bonds. At home, women feel more relaxed to talk about personal matter because they don’t care how they will be judged by others. Mainly, this is because many women do not have the social confidence to be more active in public discussions, such as in school discussion and business meetings. Holmes relied on many academic studies from various sources to support her argument which illustrated the similarity between her claims and Tannens’. Moreover, a different study showed that women need social confidence to feel comfortable enough to contribute in public. Women can feel more socially confidence if they are knowledgeable about a certain topic under discussion. As specific knowledge and information is not needed, private talk is surely the form of communication, most women are comfortable with.

​ The supporting evidences Tannen used in her article is more convincing than Holmes’s. There are many reasons why Tannens’s evidence is more effectively supports her claim. First reason, the style she uses to structure her sentence makes it easier for the reader to read it and to understand it clearly. She cited the researches by name allowing us the opportunity to review her findings in more detail, as well as separating the issues in sub headings in the article in a way that makes it coherent. Second reason, Tannen shared her own experience and backs it up with evidences and studies that assure what she believe, based on her experience. Holmes on the other hand, only stated academic studies done be researchers to support her claim, but did not contribute any examples from her personal experience which was incoherent, and not entertaining to read. She used entertaining personal experiences, supported by accurate studies. Third reason, she identified the differences between private and public talk, providing details which supported her views about the topic, whereas, Holmes failed to cover both parts of the issue, focusing only on “public” speech patterns. Conversely, Holmes did not specify the details and sources of her ideas which left us to question if her findings were accurate. Tannen also touched on many subjects and examples that Holmes did not; such as telling jokes, illustrating the use of logic between men and women, and the Report and Rapport- talk definitions. All these factors and reasons proved that Tannen supports her argument and evidences better than Holmes.

​The fact that women do not talk as much as men do, may come as a surprise to many people still. Inherent stereotypes have always been difficult to change, even when sound evidence is presented to disprove them. Both Tannen and Holmes explored the misconception of women being more talkative and highlighted the different environments in which men and women change roles with sound academic evidence and personal experiences to support.

Hopefully, this helped to change the opinions of some concerning the mistaken belief of a women’s talkative nature. While Holmes offered many good points towards the subject, Tannen surely went into this issue more deeply using many more academic citations which will certainly make her argument more receptive to the reader. Understanding the facts will only help us to communicate more efficiently and effectively with one another. So many of us rarely consider the different objectives men and women seek concerning verbal communication. This lack of understanding has been the root of many marital and male/female relationship problems. Therefore, the effort that Tannen and Holmes made toward this topic will have surely save many relationships from death by stereotype.

Works Cited

Holmes, Janet. “Women Talk Too Much.” Language Myths. Ed. Laurie Bauer, Peter Trudgill. ​New York: Penguin Books, 1998.75-95. Print.

Tannen, Deborah. “’Put Down That Paper and Talk to ME!:’ Rapport-talk and Report-talk.” ​You Just Don’t Understand. New York: Quill, 1990.75-95. Print.

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الأبعاد الذاتية للإنسان

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

صديقاتي وقريباتي..

كيف تستغلون يومكم!؟ وبأي طريقة!؟ هل تريدون تغيير اسلوب حياتكم؟! هل تريدون تنظيم اوقاتكم !؟ هل تشعرون بأن الوقت يمر بدون أي فائدة !؟

لدي الحل !!

هنالك ٤ ابعاد ذاتية للانسان لو اتبعها في يومه سيحقق الرضا التام لذاته بإذن الله =))

اولا: الجسم
ممارسة الرياضة كالمشي او الجري او ممارسة الاعمال المنزلية او اي نوع اخر يساعدك على الحركة.

ثانياً: العقل
اكتساب المعرفة والثقافه. كقراءة كتاب او مشاهدة برنامج مفيد او الذهاب للجامعه لأخذ كل ماهو جديد ومفيد.

ثالثاً: الروح
تغذية الروح بالايمان والقيم. كالصلاة وقراءة القرآن او الاحاديث الشريفة والتسبيح، او حتى التأمل في الكون.

رابعاً وآخيرا:
العاطفة
تنمية العواطف بالتواصل مع من نحب من العائلة او الاصدقاء او المجتمع بشكل عام.

اذا طبقنا هذه الابعاد الاربعة خلال يومنا المكون من ٢٤ ساعة فسنحقق الرضى عن ذاتنا جسدياً، عقلياً، روحياً، وعاطفياً!

استيقظ كل يوم وانت مقرر بأنك ستحقق السعادة لنفسك والتي ستنعكس على من حولك بإذن الله.

اذا كنت من النوع الذي ينسى، قم بعمل جدول صغير في مذكرتك يشمل هذه الابعاد الاربعة، وعند الانتهاء من كل بعد ضع ابتسامة بجانبها تشير بأنك اسعدت نفسك في هذا اليوم.

احساس الكلمات ~

عندما أبدأ بالكتابة
أجد نفسي وأجد ذاتي
أجد نفسي تنطق بالحروف المقهورة
الذي تأبى أن تتوارى بين السطور
أجد ببعض الاحيان
ادمعي تنساب على ورقتي تبللها
فتبقى حروفي هي ذاتي الخجول
التي تريد التحرر ولكنها ..

ولكنها

خجلة ..

كيف أعيش؟!

الحال لا يسر ابداً
فالملجأ متدمر
والمأكل خبز متكسر
والمشرب مسموم

كيف أعيش؟!

لا حقوق
لا حرية
ولا امل!

كيف أعيش؟!

الغني يغْنى
والفقير يفْقر
والمال عملة نادرة
فالواسطة هي العملة الجديدة!

كيف اعيش !؟

حروب مستمرة
ارهاب ديني ودنيوي
صراعات قبلية

كيف أعيش !؟

كل ما اريده .. هو السلام

ولكن اذا عشت بدون مأكل، حقوق، مال، ولا حرية

فبئست من عِيشة!

عسل اسود!!

عسل اسود ..

بالورقة والقلم .. خدتيني مية قلم
انا شفت فيكي مرمطة وعرفت مين الي اتظلم!
..
ليه الي جايك اجنبي عارفه عليه تطبطبي
وتركبي الوش الخشب وعلى الي منك تقلبي !؟
..
عارفة سواد العسل ؟ اهو دا حالك الي وصل ..
ازاي قوليلي مكملة وكل دا فيكي حصل ؟؟؟
..
يا بلد معانده نفسها
يا كل حاجه وعكسها
ازاي وانا صبري انتهى لسه بشوف فيكي امل !؟ :”)
..
ضارباك وهي بتحضنك
وهو دا الي مجننك!!
بلد ما تعرف لو ساكنها ولا هي بتسكنك !!
..
بتسرقك وتسلفك
ظالماك وبرضو بتنصفك
ازاي في حضنك ملمومين وانتي على حالك كدآآ؟!!!

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أحببتك أكثر مما ينبغي فأحببتني أقل مما أستحق!

انتهيت للتو من قراءة الرواية ” أحببتك أكثر مما ينبغي” للكاتبة أثير النشمي

اغبطها ماشاءالله على حسن اختيارها للكلمات والأسلوب الأكثر من رائع، الملفت، القوي، والمميز. لم أمل أبدا وأنا اقرأها فكانت جميلة بالفعل، اعجبتني القصة وعشت تفاصيلها في مخيلتي الصغيرة.

خلاصتي من هذا الكتاب بأن ” جمانة” بطلة هذه الرواية أخطئت خطأ قادماً، إنها مجنونة، فماذا تنتظر من شخص ك ” عزيز” الذي لم يترك جريمة بحقها إلا وفعلها!

كانت غبية جداً لتوضح إلى قراراته وتتعلل بالحب لا أكثر! أنصحها بقراءة ” نسيان” لأحلام المستغانمي لعلها تكره أو تنسى عزيز يوماً!

حب بلا كرامة ولا احترام، ناقص تماماً..

رواية أكثر من رائعة لا استطيع وصفها، انتهيت من قرائتها في اقل من يوم! لان الأسطر كانت تلفتني بشكل مجنون لأسلوبها الرائع ماشاءالله تبارك الله ❤ شكرًا أثير 🙂

* الي ما قرأها لازم يقرأها، ممكن تعلمه الكثير 🙂